Intro to My Sassy…06.20.2008

sas·sy 1(sās’ē) adj. 1. Lively, spirited, jaunty. 2. Bold, audacious, confident. 3. Rude; Discourteous 4. Forward, brazen, brash. 5. sarcastic, saucy, smart, snippy, wise 6. Stylish, chic.
sas·sy 2(sās’ē) n. 1. A western African tree (Erythrophleum suaveolens) of the pea family, having bark that yields a poison and wood that is used for construction. Also called sasswood, sassy bark.   

Naturally Sassy…I just realized, that I can drive myself crazy stressing over what other people think of me. We all have to define who we are to ourselves, and just flow with that.  I don’t know about ya’ll, but for as long as I can remember, my sassiness has come naturally…though some people have tried to make me feel bad about it, it’s so deeply embedded, they only get frustrated. It has indeed been its own tree: rooted in African descent, firmly planted…its branches, a constant extension of my many dimensions…a platform for learning and growth with each ring and age band earned, a way to distinguish myself amongst others, a blossoming path to finding my way. My sassiness has been a rough exterior of poisonous bark too…constructing, building, and protecting my heart, my confidence, my femininity, my self-esteem, my boldness, my intelligence, my fear…my womanhood, and most of all my forward and expressive opinion.

Okay ya’ll. So this is my very first post and I must say, getting my sweet virgin blogger cherry popped has to be about as comfortable as that New Year’s night at 17.  I’m 28 now, but I must admit I’m nervous, semi-prepared, scared what everyone else will think of me when it’s all over, feeling good because I’ve finally joined the ranks of other women I admire and eager to earn my stripes. I’m thinking “why the hell is it so dark in here” but I’m thankful for the familiar voice that encourages me to finish what I’ve started. All the while, I’m knowing this environment might expose me to a lifetime of open indiscretions, yet still unable to fight my curiosity. I’m loving my partner in all of this but anxious to see if our relationship will grow or falter. My relationship with my talent, I mean. Will I still love it, or will I get my feelings hurt and vow to never do this again?…well, at least until I know I’m loved back.  Hmph, just like 17.

What’s weird is that I’ve always been really bad about keeping a diary. I would start one, do well with it for about a week or so, then put it down for a year or more. Instead, I opted to express my thoughts gangsta style…busting in conversations univited when I felt I had something profound to share…scaring my lily co-workers and pissing off all executives within earshot because I decided to speak up in the bullshyt meeting when the CEO asked if anyone had any further questions…jumping to the defense of friends and even strangers when I felt their own voices we’re too weak to defend themselves…who asked me?…Barely letting my man get a word in edge-wise while he desperately tried to make his case…poor thing, I had already argued both sides complete speeches & lectures on what I may have been feeling at the moment…a writer himself, he remained patient with my aggressive expression…Lucky Me. I frequently tortured my friends and family with my thoughts. I wrote long, descriptive, detailed email messages that would probably rival a pHD dissertation or some lawyer’s closing statement. I admit I needed an outlet. So, I decided to start a blog.  Sorry they had to suffer so long. As of today, I am no longer a virgin. I’m really doing this, allowing my blogger cherry to be popped with my sassy, dramatic thought. I don’t know how good this will be…for ya’ll or for me, but I hope it’s worth it.

So, who Gives a Sassy ‘ish? …Well I started this site and named it the way I did partly because a lot of people seem to be confused & even incensed at times about why I am the way I am.  Hopefully, through class in the educational sense about my sassy, and class in the etiquette sense, this blog will serve as a vehicle for learning, warning, entertaining, engaging and even relieving those in the dark about my sassiness.  I’ve noticed though, that I’m not alone. We’re all at least a little sassy….some of us embrace it, some of us can’t find it or never learned to use it, some of us are ashamed & keep it tamed within. Some praise us for it, others chastise & call us names. Some of us are even hippocritical about it, talking about our busted friend behind her back and sometimes boldly to her face, knowing all the while our own sassy is foul too.  That’s letting you know, anything in excess is way too much. You can keep it sassy, but remain classy!! 

Oftentimes, lively & spirited by definition, my own sassiness, like this blog, is not for everyone.  My delivery is hardly ever welcomed or well-received by the soft and sensitive-hearted.  Yet, I still embrace it. If it isn’t your flavor, you can leave or you can stay. Just be forewarned, I offer no apologies here.  Actually, you can expect some extra sassiness for that matter. For those of you who don’t mind thought-provoking candor or a bit of fantastic fodder in life, welcome to my world of unedited truth & unapologetic sassiness. Maybe you can feel what I think about the pure hot messes, love & relationships, community & family, writing, health, natural beauty, fashion, style & chic culture, politics, music & the arts, life’s never-ending journey of ups and downs, and everything in between.

Sassy sign here…press hard…The only rule of my blog is that there are no rules.  I CAN promise ya’ll that I’ll be sassy in my thought and commentary, sometimes even controversial. I don’t know how to be any other way.  Besides, this is my shyzznit. I can be like that.  The hataz can kick rocks, right? Anyway, this isn’t a rule, but feel free to share your comments, links, pics and all things sassy. I know there will be occasional “blog stalkers”, but I created this blog so I could hear your sassy ‘say whats’ too. Send me your thought-provoking material & lets communicate. Keep it sassy; somewhat classy & I’ll reasonably consider how to post those with a lack thereof.  

Any similarities in stories told or names named are merely coincidence, so don’t get it twisted.  Private Sassiness? Don’t want to post sensitive sass on the blog? You can find me here:

 ~ Queen Sassy



8 Responses to “Intro to My Sassy…06.20.2008”

  1. AAAWWW Ash i think you may have finally found ur nitch. U needed a place to express ur opinions other than the ‘gangsta style’ (omg i thought that was so hilarious) u’ve been practicing… Good luck I think you’ll be great. Enjoy your new Blogger Hat.

  2. I love the site! Glad you decided on this outlet to express yourself to the world! From one sassy chick to anotha’…….gon’ head on whicha bad azz self!!

  3. Petrina Says:

    Kudos to you, Ash! I am excited that you have decided to explore cyberspace blogger-style! This is a great forum for you because you indeed have more to say than the average gal. I look forward to reading your sassy sentiments! Sassy Soror P 🙂

  4. Erica (Mechelle's sister) Says:

    Hey Ashlee,

    I am so proud of you for starting your own blog. I have been receiving
    your e-mails for the last few weeks and I was going to suggest you put
    them in web form. I’m glad you were already on the path to success 🙂
    I am in the process of starting my own blog and I follow other’s very
    closely. I’m sure I will read yours quite often. Looking forward to
    great work from you…

  5. Jo Ann(Mother) Says:

    I’m SOOOOOOOO proud of you Miss Sassy. Your blog takes me back to your sassy beginnings. I’m reminded of the night gown we bought you that read ” I can always depend on Me! That still describes you. You are awesome! Finally an outlet for all you expressions. Love Ya Much! Mom

  6. Good luck Ash, and I hope you continue. I hope I have the courage one day to share my blog with my family.

  7. classatmysassytree Says:

    Meagan…thanx young sis for the support…I’m always happy when I can make you laugh!

    Meesh…Heyyy!!! I can’t wait for your upcoming blog as well! It’s gonna be phyre!

    Sassy Soror P…thanx for suggesting a while back that I should be a blogger. I’m not sure what I’m doing, but I’m certainly comfortable. I appreciate the support!

    Erica…Thanks for your comment! Sorry for those long I look forward to reading your blog. Just go with your flow, and you’ll be fine.

    Hey Momma! I’m so glad I can share these things with my mom. You were the first to understand me, and the only one who knows me BEST!…and the MAIN one hoping I would find some OTHER way to share my excessive thoughts than work you overtime every chance I got! Of course I can’t remember that night gown, but it sounds like me…or one of us girls!! You know how you are about remembering things! I LOVE YOU. Muah!

    FLRich…I responded to this comment on my post from yesterday!

    Thanx Again to All!!

  8. Mechelle Says:

    Hey Ash- The time has finally come for you to share your thoughts with the world. I will be there to cheer you on every step of the way!! Best wishes to you ::)))

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